Often times they will be differences in opinion in the church. “Doubtful disputations” means do not pass judgment on this issues that are matters of opinion. These differences should not be feared or avoided, but accepted and handled with love. Don’t expect everyone even in the best church, to agree on every subject. Through sharing ideas we can come to a fuller understanding of what the Bible teaches. Accept, listen to, and respect others. Difference of opinion need not cause division. They can be a source of learning and richness in our relationships. But how are we to respond to others who hold values different from our own. The Apostle Paul began to address this issue in the book of Romans chapter 14.
Paul speaks in this passage not of eternal issues or absolute truth, but about the “grey areas” – subjects that are questionable and maybe even fuzzy. Christians can differ on these issues and still be part of the same organization, no scripture declares unequivocal right or wrong. Note Paul’s counsel for situations like this: Be open not condescending, remember that everyone answers to the Lord, not to you. Cling to your own convictions, whatever your values your motives should be to please God. You are ultimately accountable to the Lord. Do not cause anyone to stumble, don’t let others impose their values on you, and vice vesa. Make love your highest aim.
Pursue peace and adding value to people, don’t destroy anyone by imposing your values on them. Anything is wrong that is not done out of personal faith. While the church must be uncompromising in its stand against activities expressly forbidden by scripture (adultery, homosexuality, murder, theft), it should not create additional rules and regulations and give then equal standing with God’s Law. Many times Christians base their moral judgments on opinion, personal dislikes, or cultural bias rather than on the word of God. When they do that they show that their own faith is weak. They do not think God is powerful enough to guide his children. When we stand before God’s court of justice (“judgment seat”), we won’t be worried about what our Christian neighbor has done.